Those we love may speak or act unguardedly, which may wound us deeply. It was not their intention to do this; but Satan magnifies their words and acts before the mind, and thus hurls a dart from his quiver to pierce us. We brace ourselves to resist the one whom we think has injured us, and by so doing we encourage Satan’s temptations. Instead of praying to God for strength to resist Satan, we suffer our happiness to be marred by trying to stand for what we term “our rights.” Thus we allow Satan a double advantage. We act out our aggrieved feelings, and Satan uses us as his agents to wound and distress those who did not intend to injure us. The requirements of the husband may sometimes seem unreasonable to the wife, when if she should calmly, candidly take the second view of the matter, in as favorable a light for him as possible, she would see that to yield her own way and submit to his judgment, even if it conflicted with her feelings, would save them both from unhappiness and would give them great victory over the temptations of Satan. {1T 308.2}

De, som vi har kær, kan måske tale eller handle overilet, hvilket kan såre os dybt. Det var ikke deres mening at gøre dette, men Satan forstørrer deres ord og handlinger for vort sind og udslynger således en pil fra sit kogger for at gennembore os. Vi omgjorder os for at stå den imod, som vi mener har gjort os skade og derved ansporer vi den ondes fristelser. I stedet for at bede Gud om kraft til at stå Satan imod tillader vi, at vor (309) lykke lider skade ved, at vi forsøger at holde på, hvad vi kalder "vore rettigheder". Derved tilstår vi Satan en dobbelt fordel. Vi giver vore krænkede følelser udtryk i handling og Satan bruger os som sine redskaber til at såre og bedrøve dem, der ikke havde til hensigt at skade os. Mandens krav kan undertiden forekomme hustruen urimelige; men dersom hun roligt og oprigtigt overvejer sagen en gang til og betragter den i et for ham så gunstigt lys som muligt, vil hun indse, at når hun giver afkald på sin egen mening og bøje sig for hans skøn, selv om dette skulle gå hendes følelser imod, vil det spare dem begge for ulykke og give dem en stor sejr over Satans fristelser.