My sister, excuse not your defects because others are wrong. In the day of God you will not dare to plead as an excuse for your neglect to form a character for heaven, that others did not manifest devotion and spirituality. The same lack which you discovered in others was in yourself. And the fact that others were sinners makes your sins nonetheless grievous. Both they and you, if you continue in your present state of unfitness, will be separated from Christ, and will with Satan and his angels be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of His power. {2T 396.1}

Din hustru vil med foragt ikke lade dig vide at hun lagde mærke til dine mangler. Hun er bange for dig. Havde du haft en virkelig kærlighed, som er naturlig for hende, ville du have fundet genklang i hendes hjerte. Du er for kold og hårdnakket. Til tider har du vist hengivenhed, men det har ikke vækket kærlighed tilbage fordi du ikke har været høflig og opmærksom og vist en god opmærksomhed for din hustru, ved at se efter hendes lykke. Du har for mange gange følt dig fri til at gå ud og forlyste dit selv uden at rådføre dig med hendes behag eller i det hele taget lykke.