Your wife should make strong efforts to come out of her retired, dignified reserve, and cultivate simplicity in all her actions. And when the higher order of faculties is aroused in you, and strengthened by exercise, you will better understand the wants of women; you will understand that the soul craves love of a higher, purer order than exists in the low order of animal passions. These passions have been strengthened in you by encouragement and exercise. If now in the fear of God you keep your body under, and seek to meet your wife with pure, elevated love, the wants of her nature will be met. Take her to your heart; esteem her highly. {2T 415.1}

Du bedømmer andre og giver kommentarer til deres metoder og veje, skønt du ikke forstår deres position i deres arbejde. Du ser tingene fra dit ståsted og derfra drager tvivl eller fordømmer den fremgangsmåde de har, uden at se sagerne åbent fra alle sider. Du har ingen kundskab til andres opgaver og bør ikke føle ansvar for deres handlinger, men gøre din pligt og overlade andre til Herren. Hold dig tålmodig, bevar freden og roen i sindet og vær taknemmelig.