You have been exalted and have taken a position above your wife. You have not understood yourself. You have had a high appreciation of your religious experience and advancement in the divine life. These things have hindered, instead of helping, your wife. She feared for you, feared that you did not really understand yourself, and that you would go too fast. Your union has not been happy. You have been unsuited to each other. Your wife has a timid, fearful, shrinking nature. You have utterly failed to understand her. She hesitates and fears to move out because she is afraid of going too fast. She needs confidence in herself and should encourage independence. {2T 415.2}

Jeg så at Herren havde givet dig lys og erfaring, så du kan se den overilede ånds syndighed og styre dine anfald. Så sikkert som du undlader dette, lige så sikkert vil du miste evigt liv. Du må overvinde denne sygelige indbildning. Du er ekstremt følsom og hvis et ord siges til fordel for noget der går imod din vej, så såres du. Du føler at du er til skamme og at du må forsvare dig selv, rede dit liv; og i dine alvorligste anstrengelser for at redde dit liv, mister du det. Du har et arbejde at gøre med at dø i selvet og opelske en overbærenhed og tålmodighed. Overvind den tanke at du ikke udnyttes rigtigt, at du er forkert på den, at nogen ønsker at presse eller skade dig. Du ser igennem falske øjne. Satan forleder dig til at tage dette fordrejede syn på tingene.