There are many families of children who appear to be well trained while under the training discipline; but when the system which has held them to set rules is broken up, they seem to be incapable of thinking, acting, or deciding for themselves. These children have been so long under iron rule, not allowed to think and act for themselves in those things in which it was highly proper that they should, that they have no confidence in themselves to move out upon their own judgment, having an opinion of their own. And when they go out from their parents to act for themselves, they are easily led by others’ judgment in the wrong direction. They have not stability of character. They have not been thrown upon their own judgment as fast and as far as practicable, and therefore their minds have not been properly developed and strengthened. They have so long been absolutely controlled by their parents that they rely wholly upon them; their parents are mind and judgment for them. {3T 132.3}

Der er mange familier, hvis børn synes at være velopdragne, så længe de er under opdragelsens indflydelse; men når det opdragelsessystem, der har holdt dem til faste regler, ophører, synes de at være ude af stand til selv at tænke, handle og beslutte. Disse børn har så længe stået under en jernhård ledelse uden at få lov til selv at tænke og handle i sådanne ting, hvor det i høj grad var naturligt, at de skulle gøre det, at de ikke har nogen tillid til sig selv, når det gælder at handle efter eget (133) skøn, fordi de ikke har en mening selv. Når de kommer bort fra forældrene og skal handle på egen hånd, lader de sig let lede i den forkerte retning af andres skøn. De har ingen karakterfasthed. De er blevet henvist til at stole på deres eget skøn så hurtigt og i den udstrækning, som det var praktisk og derfor er deres ånd ikke blevet udviklet og styrket, som den burde. De har så længe været fuldstændig behersket af deres forældre, at de forlader sig helt på dem; forældrene tænker og træffer afgørelse for dem.