But Brother A is in danger of taking upon himself burdens which others can and should bear. He should not wear himself out in doing those things which others, whose time is less valuable, can do. He should act as a director and superintendent. He should preserve his strength, that with his experienced judgment he can direct others what to do. This is necessary in order for him to maintain a position of influence in the Institute. His experience in managing with wisdom and economy is valuable. But he is in danger of separating his interest too much from his family, of becoming too much absorbed in the Institute, and of taking too many burdens upon himself, as my husband has done. My husband’s interest for the Health Institute, the Publishing Association, and the cause generally was so great that he broke down and has been compelled to retire from the work for a time, when, had he done less for these institutions and divided his interest with his family, he would not have had a constant strain in one direction, and would have preserved his strength to continue his labors uninterruptedly. Brother A is the man for the place. But he should not do as my husband has done, even if matters are not in as prosperous a condition as if he devoted his entire energies to them. God does not require either my husband or Brother A to deprive himself of social family enjoyment, to divorce himself from home and family, even for the interest of these important institutions. {3T 176.3}

Jeg fik vist at Dr. B for let mister modet. Der vil altid være ting der driller, forvirrer og prøver lægers og sygehjælperes tålmod. De må være beredte for dette og ikke blive overildnede eller ude af balance. De må være rolige og velvillige hvad der end må hænde. De udøver en indflydelse som patienterne vil føre videre til de andre stater og som vil spejle igen til helseinstituttet for godt eller for ondt. De bør altid have for øje at de har med sygelige mænd og kvinder, syge i sindet, som ofte ser tingene i et fordrejet lys og stadig tror at de forstår tingene korrekt. Læger bør forstå at et bildt svar vender vreden. En vis taktik må anvendes på institutioner hvor syge behandles, for (183) at styre de syge tanker og hjælpe den syge patient. Hvis læger kan forblive rolige i en storm af ubetænksomme, opildnede ord, hvis de kan beherske deres eget humør når de provokeres og skældes ud, er de i virkeligheden sejrherrer. »Større end helt er sindig mand, større at styre sit sind end at tage en stad.« At holde selvet nede og bringe lidenskaberne under viljens kontrol, er den største sejer mænd og kvinder kan vidne.