You feel that your wife should not interfere with your plans and arrangements, and you too frequently set your will and plans of operation in opposition to hers. You act as though her identity should be merged in yours. You are not satisfied to have her act as though she had an individuality, an identify of her own. God holds her accountable for her individuality. You cannot save her, and she cannot save you. She has a conscience of her own by which she must be guided. You are too willing to be conscience for her, and sometimes for your children. God has higher claims upon your wife than you can have. She must form a character for herself, and she is accountable to God for the character she develops. {3T 244.3}

Du føler at din hustru ikke bør blande sig i dine planer (245) og aftaler og du sætter ofte din vilje og planer op imod hendes. Du handler som om hendes identitet skulle slås sammen med din. Du er ikke glad for at hun handler som om hun har sin egen personlighed, hendes egen identitet. Gud drager hende til ansvar for hendes personlighed. Du kan ikke frelse og hun kan ikke frelse dig. Hun har selv en samvittighed som hun må vogte over. Du vil helst være samvittighed over hende og nogle gange for dine børn. Gud har større krav på din hustru end du. Hun må selv danne sin karakter og hun er ansvarlig over for Gud for den karakter hun udvikler.