When Brother B once takes a position on the wrong side, it is not according to his nature to see his error and confess his wrong, but to fight it out to the last, whatever may be the consequences. This spirit is ruinous to the church and ruinous in his family. He needs to soften his heart and let in tenderness, humility, and love. He needs benevolence and noble generosity. In short, he needs to be thoroughly converted, to be a new man in Christ Jesus. Then his influence in the church will be all right and he will be just the help they need. He will have the respect and love of his family and will command his household after him. Duty and love like twin sisters, will be his helps in the management of his children. {3T 438.3}

Da bror B tidligere havde taget standpunkt på den forkerte side, er det ikke i overensstemmelse med hans natur at se sine fejl og bekende (439) dem, men at slås for det eller dem, lige til det sidste. Denne ånd er ødelæggende for menigheden og ødelæggende for hans familie. Han behøver at blødgøre sit hjerte og lade ømhed, ydmyghed og kærlighed komme ind. Han behøver godgørenhed og ædel gavmildhed. Kort sagt, behøver han at blive gennemgribende omvendt og blive et nyt menneske i Jesus Kristus. Han vil få sin families respekt og kærlighed og vil få styringen over sit hjem. Pligt og kærlighed, vil ligesom tvillingesøstre, være hans hjælpere i opdragelsen af hans børn.