I saw that my husband should not dwell upon the painful facts in our experience. Neither should he write his grievances, but keep as far from them as he can. The Lord will heal the wounds of the past if he will turn his attention away from them. “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.” When confessions are made by his brethren who have been wrong, he should accept the confessions and generously, nobly, seek to encourage those who have been deceived by the enemy. He should cultivate a forgiving spirit and should not dwell upon the mistakes and errors of others, for in so doing he not only weakens his own soul, but tortures the minds of his brethren who have erred, when they may have done all that they can do by confession to correct their past errors. If God sees it necessary that any portion of their past course should be presented before them, that they may understand how to shun errors in future, He will do this work; but my husband should not trust himself to do it, for it awakens past scenes of suffering that the Lord would have him forget. {3T 98.2}

Jeg så at min mand ikke skulle dvæle på de smertelige kendsgerninger han havde oplevet. Han burde heller skrive sine beklagelser ned men holde sig lå langt fra dem som han kan. Herren vil helbrede fortidens sår hvis han vil vende sin opmærksomhed væk fra dem. »Thi vor trængsel, der er stakket og let, virker uden mål og måde en evig vægt af herlighed for os, som ikke har blikket rettet mod de synlige ting, men mod de usynlige; thi de synlige varer kun til en tid, de usynlige varer evigt.« Når hans brødre, som har fejlet, gør bekendelser, bør han godtage bekendelserne og ædelmodigt søge efter at opmuntre dem som har været bedraget af fjenden. Han bør opelske en tilgivende ånd og ikke dvæle ved andres fejltagelser og vildfarelser, for derved svækker han ikke blot sig selv, men piner sine brødre som har fejlet, skønt de ved bekendelse har gjort hvad de kunne for at rette deres tidligere fejl. Hvis Gud ser det er nødvendigt at nogen del af deres tidligere opførsel skulle fremstilles for dem, så at de må forstå hvordan de skal undgå fejl i fremtiden, vil han gøre dette; men min mand bør ikke stole på sig selv, for dette vækker tidligere lidelses-episoder som Herren vil have ham til at glemme.