But while you have fully realized your husband’s faults, you have failed to mark your own. You have erred in talking of his failings to others, thus cultivating a love for dwelling upon disagreeable topics, and keeping your disappointments and trials constantly before you. You have thus fallen into the habit of making the most of your sorrows and difficulties, many of which you create by exaggeration and by talking to others. {4T 137.2}

Men ser du din mands fejl helt igennem, har du ikke set på din egne. Du har fejlet ved at tale om hans fejl over for andre og derved fået trang til at dvæle over ubehagelige emner og hele tiden tænke på dine skuffelser og prøvelser. Derved har du fået for vane at gøre mest ud af dine sorger og vanskeligheder, hvor mange af dem skabes ved overdrivelse og sladder til andre.