You have had trials. You have been oppressed in mind. You have been discouraged, but have unjustly charged this unhappiness upon others. The main cause is to be found in yourself. You have failed to make your home what it should be and what it might have been. It is yet in your power to correct the faults there. Come out of that cold and stiff reserve. Give more love, rather than exact it; cultivate cheerfulness; let the sunshine into your heart, and it will shine upon those about you; be more social in your manners; seek to gain the confidence of your children, that they may come to you for advice and counsel; encourage in them humility and unselfishness, and set before them the right example. {4T 104.1}

(104) Du har haft prøvelser. Du har været betynget i sindet. Du har været ked af det, men har uretmæssigt pådraget andre denne ulykkelighed. Hovedårsagen skal findes hos dig selv. Du har ikke gjort dit hjem til hvad det burde være og hvad det kunne have været. Det er alligevel i din magt at rette fejlene der. Drag ud fra den kolde og stive tilbageholdenhed. Giv mere kærlighed, hellere end kræve det; opelsk glæde; lad solen skinne i dit hjerte og den vil skinne på dem omkring dig; vær mere social i din væremåde; søg at vinde dine børns tillid, så de kan komme til dig og få råd; indgyd ydmyghed og uselviskhed i dem og giv dem det rette eksempel.