In your life union your affections are to be tributary to each other’s happiness. Each is to minister to the happiness of the other. This is the will of God concerning you. But while you are to blend as one, neither of you is to lose his or her individuality in the other. God is the owner of your individuality. Of Him you are to ask: What is right? What is wrong? How may I best fulfill the purpose of my creation? “Ye are not your own; for ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:19, 20. Your love for that which is human is to be secondary to your love for God. The wealth of your affection is to flow forth to Him who gave His life for you. Living for God, the soul sends forth to Him its best and highest affections. Is the greatest outflow of your love toward Him who died for you? If it is, your love for each other will be after heaven’s order. {7T 45.5}

I jeres samliv bør jeres hengivenhed bidrage til, at I begge bliver lykkelige. Hver af ægtefællerne skal bestræbe sig på at gøre den anden lykkelig. Dette er Guds vilje med jer. Men på samme tid, som I skal smelte sammen til et, må ingen af jer give afkald på sin individualitet. Det er Gud, som ejer jeres individualitet. Det er ham, I skal spørge: »Hvad er rigtigt? Hvad er forkert? Hvordan kan jeg bedst opfylde hensigten med, at jeg er blevet skabt?« Eller ved I ikke, ... at I ikke tilhører jer selv? I er jo købt og prisen betalt; ær derfor Gud i jeres legeme!« 1.Kor. 6,19.20. (46) Jeres kærlighed til det, som hører menneskelivet til, skal være underordnet jeres kærlighed til Gud. Rigdommen i jeres hengivenhed, skal strømme ud til ham, som gav sit liv for jeres skyld. Når sjælen lever for Gud, skænker den ham sin bedste og inderligste kærlighed. Skænker I ham, som døde for jer, det meste af jeres kærlighed? Hvis dette er tilfældet, vil jeres kærlighed til hinanden være i overensstemmelse med himmelens plan.